Grace Is Gone (2007)

How sweet is this? 

What do you do when u lost the one you love the most with all your heart? In this movie, Stanley Phillips (John Cusack) heard the unfortunate news that his wife died while serving for his country in the army. Using the Kübler-Ross five stages of grief model to explain Stanley situation is where he displays every part of it. In the picture, he will denial, anger, bargaining, depression and lastly accept as what is the reality. 

1. Denial 

Stanley denied that his wife is dead when the army forces came to give their respect to the                   family. He denied and did not want to address the matter when his daughters came back. He brings his daughters to arcade and eat some food to maybe tell them what had happened. Eventually, he cannot take it and decided to bring their daughters to a spontaneous trip to Enchanted Garden. 

2. Anger 

Stanley was super duper angry when he heard that his brother, John mention that his wife died and why he did not mention to his daughter. Stanley pushes his brother to a wall fiercely and angrily as he cannot accept the fact that his wife died. He also dare not to express his anger to his daughter and thus allow them to do what they want such as wear a earring.

3. Depression 

He is ultimately sad that his wife is not there with them when they decided to go to                             Enchanted Garden. He will call back home and imagine that his wife is there and                                 express it out. Stanley was hoping that his wife might somehow call back him and talk to him. There was a time he did not want to go out and wanted to cry out loud in his brother place. He cried and sleep alone to avoid the pain and suffer. 

4.  Bargaining 

He did his very best and try to control his anger and management. He bargain most of the time with his oldest daughter. He did not scold his daughter even though she smokes at such small age. He even brought up to smoke with his daughter and try something new. He thinks that this way he probably will be less sad as he still got his daughter on his back. 

5. Acceptance 

However, after spending a day with their daughter, he finally bring them beside a beach and told them the unfortunate news. The oldest daughter was unable to accept it, but with the love from his father, she accept it. At the end, they hug one another. 

In the whole movie, I realize that the father and daughter always each others hands no matter where they go and walk. This touches me as the feeling of love with father and daughter is strong than ever. As I had never lose a close one before, except I was small I lose my grandparents. My grandma and I was close once as she would take care of me. It is a waste that she passed away early and I was still small. I jealous those that have grandparents and still able to have such good relationship such as cook plenty of nice food, siblings or cousin getting together. This relationship warms me and realize that family love creates a lovely and warm atmosphere to people like me. 

Smile and keeps sadness away! 

The Sixth Sense (1999)

Sight, Sound, Smell, Taste, Touch, .....? 

The Sixth Sense was a blockbuster movie back then as it was play around the whole wide world and whole wide television channel. I remember when I was in a secondary school, probably during my exam day, this movie caught my eyes as my dad said this is a nice movie. Bruce Willis was even acting in this movie therefore it fully caught my attention and I jump on my sofa and sat nicely to watch this movie. So yea, I skip my study time to watch this movie. As I like movie that is adventure, action and horror, well I can say that this movie is non-stop busting mind movie that keeps catching your attention.

Similarly, with the movie "Mercury Rising" act by Bruce Willis of where a child with autism able to see secret code in a crossword puzzle. Whereby, in this movie is where this child is born with a gift of see-ing the dead. Many movies and research have been showing and proofing that is alien, ghost or spirits living among us together. One believe in what they believe in. I cannot answer for the world that there is ghost or no ghost, but is just what we perceived and see accordingly.

Psychology of fear is one of the factor that scared us. Basics responds is normally fight or flight. As in the movie, is mainly fight and go ahead to see what is going on so that they can continue their movie. A heighten Adrenaline that excites you as my friend was closing her eyes as she was watching the movie where there is ghost. She was scared when they "ghost" appeared and when the music got intense. As I have watch it before, it still kinda excites me as some part I have forgotten.

I still like the ending of where he noticed that he is the ghost and it mind-blown the audience. My friend sitting beside me got shock while she noticed he is the real ghost. It twisted our expectation and became a attractive and blockbusting movie. I am also impress by the producer mind as he can make the actor, Bruce Willis not to talk to "real human" and still nobody ever notice it. Overall, I like movies that is beyond our expectation and be prepared while embrace it for whatever come to us in life.

Whale Rider (2002)

Do you believe in magic? 

In this movie, I find it a miracle that one is chosen to talk to spirited one's. For me it is like when an individual, is chosen to be a superhero. In the episode series, the flash, he believe he is the chosen one by the lightning and do goods to save the world and whoever is in trouble. Whereby, in this movie, we can see that a leader is also to be chosen to lead. At the start, "there was no gladness when I was born" was when Pai twin brother died with her mother. As a grandfather, he was very upset and was not happy about it as the hope of a leader is lost. Koro then ask his son to "kill" the baby as he was not proud to have a girl to continue the "heir" from a leader family. 

     Gender bias and inequality was being shown from the start to the beginning. Pai and the grandfather Koro was always seen arguing. We also can see that Pai love his grandparents more than anything but eventually then it comes to something important, a leader have to be chosen at that time. Koro is the leader in his culture Maori and at that period of time was the time of choosing a new leader as he was getting old. Therefore he started training the youngsters and choose a leader. Pai wanted to take part in the leadership training but traditionally girls cannot be a leader. This is where we seen Pai and Koro argue with one another. Pai did not give up in practicing to be a leader as probably he had an inner voice telling her to do so. She then ask for her uncle help to train her to beat Hemi in the Taiaha fight. 

     After 3 years as I was back from Australia at standard 6, I had to adapt to the culture at Malaysia. I can say that there is a difference between there and here. Malaysia have a hectic kind of days where there is a lot of homework and exercise but not in Australia. So I believe that adaptation is also important follow my time as changes are meant to keep up to the world today. Even though it is hard to accept, but as long you believe in yourself anything is possible. Whereby for Koro in the movie, he should believe in his family and be open so that regret should never be seen. I believe it is hard to accept in a traditional family, but things are fated and probably a sign of something greater. 

     As she was the chosen one, many youngsters had failed the task given by Koro. This was when Koro lost hope and felt sad. To me, Pai role was to tell the audience that rules can be broken to make a change. Pai character is shown to prove that every males and females are the same, what males are able to do, females can do too, or probably better. It is to break the stereotype and prejudice of a female to the audience and change a perspective in see-ing thing differently. 

Forget Paris (1995)

Well, love again aye?  

Well, I did not expect this movie coming. I have seen too much love in most of the movie but this is the movie I cannot relate to myself. Why do I say that? Well, I have been in love with a girl that is married? Or been to Paris? How romantic it is for us Asian that never been to Paris to able to fall in love and create such memories together. Well, in this story Mickey Gordon faces all this romantic yet dramatic relationship. Mickey Gordon is a professional basketball referee whom flew all the way to Paris to buried his dead father. Whereby, that is where he met the love of his life, the lady whom were the manager of the airport and the one whom help bury Mickey's dad. How ironic and funny it is to felt for one another based on such incident. Well, for me, I think I got attracted by Mickey's joke and how he makes a girl laugh with his lame jokes. I remember studying social psychology it stated that physical attractiveness plays an important role as it is our first impression of an individual, but well Mickey is not this one, Instead, his sense of humor make a good impression that catches Ellen attention

So, what is love? Well for me, love is an emotion, expression that makes our heartbeats beats faster, heighten our physiological arousal and mentally influencing playing with our mind. In short, I believe that means "misses someone or thinking about someone" The saddest part in this movie is that Ellen is already marry but still looking for someone which really shows an bad example to the audience. But anyway, love of never giving up one another is the part it hits me the most. Each day, we faces a new challenge but for Mickey his hardest challenge is choosing between the job he love or staying by the side with his wife. In the other hand, his wife is willingly to sacrifice her job at Paris to come and get marry with Mickey just for LOVE. How powerful is that? After some time, Ellen felt alone and wanting Mickey to quit his job just to be with her more often. Well, well, well. After much argument and so on, they finally realize they love one another and need one another so they willingly decided to be together forever. 

According to Sternberg's triangular theory of love, passion, intimacy and commitment is the key to develop a strong bond of an healthy and romantic relationship. Well of course, there are also many factors to contributing a relationship such as trust. The passion, intimacy, and commitment is strong as they have such happy ending. If the passion is not there, why would Ellen ran away to work again, then come back again? If the intimacy is not strong, why would Mickey gave up on the game halfway and decided to find her back? If you ask me, love is blind? Yes, love is patient, and love is kind. (1 Corinthians 13:4). A balance of investment between work and relationship is a must to have a long-lasting love with one another. Commitment is an important factor to contribute in the relationship. For example, committing to take care of Ellen's parents is a burden as he is old and have sickness of repeating things over and over again.